Past talkabouts

Welcome users from around the world by admin - Friday, November 23, 2018 - 11:26

 Welcome to! This is a project that has been in the works for many years and new members are welcome to express how they feel. is a forum for people to check in with how they're feeling and express what's going on for them. I've always been a sudent of self-awareness and I know that everyone has something to offer in terms of experience and feedback. Sharing our life adventures and challenges connects us to deeper understanding and the feelings through which life flows. I encourage you to peruse the drop down menu and see if it's something you'd like to take part in. Enjoy the experience and please give me feedback. Thanks George

Lost - talker8 by talker8 - Sunday, November 4, 2018 - 11:12

Q. Talk about it! I feel lost when / because:

I feel lost when I don't fit in anywhere. I can't seem to relate to anyone in my class and my family doesn't understand me either.

Q. 'No longer possessed or owned'. Something is missing, a direction, purpose, interests, meaning, what is it? What do you no longer possess or what are you looking for?

I don't feel like I have a reason to get up in the morning. I used to feel it but for a few months now that's changed.

Q. Have you ever possessed it? What is the closest you've come to having a direction and how did you feel about it? Go into detail, as if you were being interviewed.

When I was younger, life was so care free, I just played and did what I was supposed to do.

Different - anontoo by anontoo - Wednesday, February 22, 2017 - 10:59

Q. Talk about it! I feel different when / because:

I just don't seem to fit in. At work I don't talk about the same things as others and I'm not really interested in talking about what most people do. I go along with the conversation but I feel like all the conversations are more or less the same...

Q. Talk about the pros and cons of being 'different'. In what ways does it help you and in what ways does it work against you?

I do enjoy being in my apt. I like reading and usually can't wait to get home to continue my books. It's nice to have interests that are different from others, I just don't have many people around me that have those interests. It works against me because I don't have that group to be with and I feel like I'm always forcing myself to be interested in things that I'm not into.

low energy by Herenow - Friday, February 17, 2017 - 10:21

Does anyone know about low energy levels? I just feel like I'm always struggling to get out of bed and then have a hard time getting things done because I'm tired all the time...

meditation by Chorge - Friday, February 10, 2017 - 20:05

 I just read a comment in 'Things that work' about meditation. I have to add to this and say that this has been a great help for me in my life. I spend 20 minutes in the morning sitting in a comfortable chair with my feet up and a lit candle. I allow myself 5 minutes to take notes about the thoughts that come up in my mind related to work or what I have to do that day (sometimes use a note pad to keep track) and then I just inhale and focus on the sounds that I hear, the birds or traffic, my breathing, the temperature or whatever else is part of the moment. I keep my eyes closed or open and I just try to me present. When thoughts do come up I just look at them and return my focus to the present. I like starting my day like this because it makes me more relaxed.

Criticized - anontoo by anontoo - Monday, February 6, 2017 - 10:57

Q. Talk about it! I feel criticized when / because:

My coworker seems to think that I need to be reminded what to do and how to do it when I'm working..

Q. Is this criticism constructive or destructive and how so? Make a list to consider all possibilities. Is there a way that it could be constructive?

I guess it could be constructive but on the other hand what he's saying is pretty obvious so I'm thinking maybe a way for him to be in control. So far I'm keeping my cool so as not to create a tense work environment but what I really feel like doing to to tell him to myob!

Q. How is feeling criticized hindering you from having more potential?

I think it would be nice to just be able to do my job, work in peace and get along better..

Indifferent - Seeker by Seeker - Monday, February 16, 2015 - 11:40

Q. Talk about it! I feel indifferent when / because:

Nothing really interests me at this point. I'm happy but don't feel inspired or motivated.

Q. Should you be interested or concerned and who else does it make a difference to?

I guess it doesn't make a difference really. I'm usually pretty happy and the absence of being on the go is kinda nice.

Q. Indifference is interesting (and revealing) because it tells you that you're not interested in something and that tells you a lot. What would you rather be doing or investing your time in?

That's the issue, I feel like I 'should' be doing something. I just can't think of what that is.

Q. How does indifference make you feel? For example, bored, powerless, obligated etc.

Welcome to 2017 by admin - Monday, January 5, 2015 - 13:57

Welcome to 2017 everyone! I always like to reflect on the past year and make a rough plan of how I want to feel in the New Year. For myself, last year was a bit of a challenge but I managed to get through the tough stuff and I'm now encouraged with respect to 2015. I like how things have been going and I think it's a good foundation to build on. I would like to attract more of the same into my life. Often times it seems like the results take too long and I get impatient but I know that a good foundation takes time to build and habbits that I want to change take perseverence and practice in order to make them a part of who I am. I will continue along this new path and I will continue to appreciate what has come into my life more and more. All the best to all those of you who are looking to make a positive change to better understand yourselves and others.

Abandoned - Herenow by Herenow - Monday, December 22, 2014 - 10:15

Q. Talk about it! I feel abandoned when / because:

I feel abandoned when there doesn't seem to be anyone who can really listen. I like to think that I listen well but when I need to talk about things it always seems to go back to the other person.

Q. Sometimes in life we may actually be abandoned by those who love us. Other times we just feel that way. It can seem like a void in your life where once there was someone to fill it. What do you feel is lacking when companionship or help is withdrawn, and where can you find it elsewhere? Things happen for a reason. What are some of the objective explanations for this situation?

Christmas again by talker8 - Wednesday, December 10, 2014 - 16:15

Well it's that time of year again and as I get older I think I learn to appreciate more and more the things that really matter at Christmas time. I am more relaxed about the whole consumer thing and buy only little knick knacks for the people I care about. I enjoy the music, the lights and the people who are able to keep smiling despite the pressures that are synonymous with this time of year. I hope that this is a good time for everyone. There is much joy to share if we look to where the source is. Cheers


Innovative - Chorge by Chorge - Sunday, December 7, 2014 - 15:06

Q. Talk about it! I feel innovative when / because:

I feel innovative when things fall into place. I don't have any spectacular accomplishments but I do feel proud that it seems to work out and people seem to appreciate what I do and how I interact with them.

Q. Talk about how innovation has already played a role in your life.

I think just getting to where we are is an act of innovation. To adapt and adjust to all the curve balls that life seems to throw at us and being able to make the most of the challenges.

Q. Are you creating something that is a part of who you will become? What is it and how will it affect your future?

Stressed - ralph by ralph - Saturday, August 16, 2014 - 20:11

Q. Talk about it! I fell stressed when / because:

Too many things going on to keep track of these days.

Q. Talk about ways that you can make yourself feel more relaxed about what you're going through? For example, going for a walk helps to take your mind off of troubling situations because some of your focus is now on where you are going and the things that are around which lessens the intensity.

Get over this stressful time in my life and plan it so that it doesn't pile up like this in the future

Q. What are your needs in this situation? What do you need in order to be less anxious or comfortable. List them and talk about what they give you. Look up other emotions as well.

Driven - Herenow by Herenow - Sunday, July 27, 2014 - 17:50

Q. Talk about it! I feel driven when / because:

when I see results happening after efforts that I've made

Q. Talk about the process of going from being less focused to where you are now.

I think it's a slow process. Maybe it's just me but it takes time to get things moving in a different direction. One example I was given it that of a ship when it changes course, it takes a while.

Q. Is it possible that your focus could limit you from seeing other options?

Now that I understand better how things work and that I need to be patient and see where things go I will look at other things that I want in my life.

Q. Talk about how 'being driven' will help you in the future.

Sad - anontoo by anontoo - Tuesday, July 8, 2014 - 17:33

Q. Talk about it! I feel sad when / because:

I found out today that the neighbor passed away earlier. I didn't know her that well but was getting to know her while she smoked at her door. It makes me think about people's story and how long it takes to really get to know someone.

Q. How does feeling this way impact/affect your life

I just makes me think of how finite it is to be here on earth, what it all means and how this passing will affect me and the others in the apartment complex. I spoke with the caretaker of the block, he's getting up there and so is another of the tenants who commented on how fleeting life is.

Q. Describe your actions and the situation you were in when you first felt the emotion?

Shock, she was just there a couple of days ago and now gone.

Organised - Seeker by Seeker - Tuesday, June 10, 2014 - 19:39

Q. Talk about it! I feel organised when / because:

because things are going smoothly now. It was frustrating for a while because my organization didn't seem to be paying off but now I think it's changing.

Q. Talk about how you've made this a habit in your life and what the benefits are.

I make lists and keep plugging till I get through it.

Q. If you are organised at this time in your life what preparations are you making for your longer term plans? What does that look like?

I want to keep going in the same direction and make progress towards my life going in the direction that I want to go. I want things to get better or more in line with how I want my life to be in the future.

Q. How does feeling this way impact/affect your life

Obliged - SashaQ by SashaQ - Tuesday, May 27, 2014 - 08:31

Q. Talk about it! I feel obliged when / because:

when I feel I have to attend family events, gatherings, holidays, birthdays, weddings and feeling obliged to reciprocate visits.

Q. Talk about whether or not feeling 'obliged' is positive or negative and if it's something that you can 'pay back'.

It's positive when I want to visit with people or my family but when it's expected I really don't like it.

Q. What else does feeling 'obliged' make you feel? For example, you could feel uncomfortable for owing someone or grateful that someone was able to help you.

I feel annoyed that there doesn't seem to be any other choice than to go along with the event that's happening that week with usually the same old gang. Short of moving I don't know how to deal with it.

Indifferent - ralph by ralph - Sunday, May 18, 2014 - 13:40

Q. Talk about it! I feel indifferent when / because:

I just don't seem to care about what matters to others. I feel I should be more compassionate or understanding towards certain issues but with everything that's going on all the time I find it hard.

Q. Should you be interested or concerned and who else does it make a difference to?

I don't know if I should care, I mean what can I do about all of it anyway. Plus I'm pretty busy with my own stuff to be going off to try and help others.

Q. Indifference is interesting (and revealing) because it tells you that you're not interested in something and that tells you a lot. What would you rather be doing or investing your time in?

Trapped - janauni by janauni - Tuesday, May 13, 2014 - 12:32

Q. Talk about it! I feel trapped when / because:

When it seems like my life just goes around and around in the same circle and despite my efforts nothing changes...

Q. If you are trapped, you feel restricted in some way that keeps you from doing other things that could inspire you. What are they?

I would like to have the freedom to choose something else with the means to do it. Like quit my job and take time to consider what else I could do and then have the means to do it.

Q. What is the least you are willing to do to start feeling less restricted? Make a list and keep an eye on your progress.

I'm willing to look some more into possible solutions that could inspire me.

Q. What would you blossom into without limits? If you could not fail, what would you do?

Trapped - admin by admin - Saturday, May 10, 2014 - 20:16

Q. Talk about it! I feel trapped when / because:

Feeling trapped is not a pleasant feeling but it allows us to explore our options no matter how limited they may seem. Sometimes options don't seem like options because we've never allowed ourselves to go there. Or, we've simply never considered alternatives. When you give yourself a chance to explore avenues that never seemed possible or seemed ridiculous until now, then the doors open for other ideas to flow in. I never knew I would like a certain city or a job that turned out to be fun or a hobby or even a person that seemed too different and once we open ourselves to the possibility, a whole new reality could reveal itself to us. Sometimes taking a chance on a new approach is the best thing we can do. Feeling trapped then become an opportunity to find a way out of where we are.

Vacation by Earl - Thursday, May 8, 2014 - 11:49

No time for a vacation? So, make some time!
After an exhausting time planning a short vacation, we are going to Salt Spring Island for the up coming long weekend. Yeahhh!!!  Where are you going this coming Victoria Day long weekend?






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Knowing yourself means to be in good company when you're alone.  It is being who you are, without
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Question of the month

Are you doing what you want?

My life is great!
25% (1 vote)
Life's good but...
50% (2 votes)
I need to make changes to get to where I want to be
25% (1 vote)
Total votes: 4