Past talkabouts

Uncertain - talker8 by talker8 - Saturday, January 18, 2014 - 10:50

Q. Talk about it! I feel uncertain when / because:

I don't know if what I want is really what I want?

Q. "When in doubt, do nothing, it is better do refrain from action than to do something you are unsure of". You are between uncertainty and certainty. Let things become more clear. Talk about what's at stake.

I have two scenarios that I need to choose from and neither gets me excited. One is having more freedom but in a different place with no familiar faces around to enjoy it with and the other is less freedom (same old routine) more money and familiar faces to appreciate it. It seems as though I'm stuck.

Q. Who is involved and what are some possible scenarios?

I don't know what means more to me adventure or stability and the known. Both have their pros and cons.

thoughts by talker8 - Saturday, January 18, 2014 - 10:42

I was just wondering what people think about the never ending stream of thoughts that come and go in our minds. It seems to me that the focus of our day or life drastically affects what's going on for us. If I'm in a bad mood in the morning then I seem to focus on that unless it's either interupted by something or I decide to change what I'm focusing on or how I feel. I've been experimenting with meditating or sitting comfortably with music and focusing on positive things from the past or what I want in my life and it does help. Sometimes though I can't seem to change the focus and the program just keeps playing out over and over again.

Good - Seeker by Seeker - Monday, January 13, 2014 - 13:18

Q. Talk about it! I feel good when / because:

I feel good when I there seems to be a flow to life. I'm not trying to control or change things.

Q. This is one of those so called emotions that we just blurt out cause it's easier than going into detail about how we really feel. How does good really feel? What are some more expressive emotions to describe how you feel?

I feel connected, like it requires less effort to accomplish more.

Q. Talk about how those more specific emotions affect you.

I hope this is an ongoing thing and so I'll try to focus on the feelings behind the thoughts but it just feels like satisfaction, contentment, joy etc. Less thoughts more feeling.

Q. How does feeling this way impact/affect your life

Christmas, Holidays, whatever you like to call it by Charlotte - Monday, December 23, 2013 - 21:38

I just want to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas, or Happy Holidays, or Festivus for the rest of us!..

Doesn't matter what we call it as long as you are slowing down and taking the time to be with the people you love or just enjoying being by yourself  and being kind and generous to yourself!


Encouraged - Herenow by Herenow - Sunday, December 22, 2013 - 10:55

Q. Talk about it! I feel encouraged when / because:

because when I feel down there seems to be something to pick me up if I give myself time to let things happen (which I don't always do and isn't always easy)

Q. Talk about how you got to this point and what were some of the challenges along the way? Who or what helped you to feel encouraged?

I seem to get to this point when I'm discouraged, frustrated, confused, angry about the way things are going in my life and not being able to think my way out of it.

Q. What effect will feeling encouraged have on where you will be in the future?

Incredible story by Morfond - Sunday, December 22, 2013 - 07:24

 I found my soul mate. We talked on the site, email, text, cell, and skype even though she spoke only Russian and I spoke only English (we used Google translate).

We feel in love (shows that love can overcome all barriers even language barrier) and I went to Ukraine to meet her and her 2 kids in person.

Receptive - talker8 by talker8 - Sunday, December 15, 2013 - 17:31

Q. Talk about it! I feel receptive when / because:

When I read a book that exposes me to a different way of thinking, a different idea or an inspiring story.

Q. Who or what was the biggest influence in opening your mind and why?

I think that we come upon challenges in life and the more we're willing to open our minds to different ways of doing things or seeing things the more we're able to find solutions.

Q. How has your being receptive helped you to become the person you are today?

Cranky - Chorge by Chorge - Saturday, December 14, 2013 - 18:23

Q. Talk about it! I feel cranky when / because:

when I feel rushed

Q. Talk about whether you are easily irritated in general or is this an exceptional case? What are the contributing factors?

I think it's just so busy and I feel pressured to get things done and have time for everyone

Q. Is there pattern in your feeling cranky? Are there events or certain people that cause it? Talk about that.

I think the pattern is that I don't feel that I have enough time for myself. I think that I give away my time and then feel cranky that I don't have any left for myself.

Q. How does feeling this way impact/affect your life

It's just frustrating that I'm always running around for everyone but me.

Frustrated by Charlotte - Saturday, December 14, 2013 - 18:07

Every year I go throught the same thing, I say I am NOT going to buy gifts and then at the last minute I freak out and buy gifts hoping that I included everyone and usually getting stressed in the process of course.. Why does this always happen and why can I not just be ok with not buying gifts and telling people that I'm not going to participate in the consumerism yet once again this year?

Reminiscent - Seeker by Seeker - Thursday, December 12, 2013 - 10:19

Q. Talk about it! I feel reminiscent when / because:

when I think about past experiences, missed opportunities and where they could have led me in life if I would have made different decisions. I know that I it also could have turned out different in the sense that my situation could be much worse but it's interesting to think about how things could have been..

Q. What are some of the things that you prefer about the past and what those things meant to you?

I think I like more what the past could have led to in the future if I had the foresight to invest in things that would have paid dividends at this point in my life.

Winter Getaway by kele - Wednesday, December 11, 2013 - 14:55

Christmas at Leavenworth WAIt's Christmas season, I have absolutely no motivation to work. I wish I was a bear so that I could hibernate in the winter (I say this every winter).  So, a winter getaway is something that I really looking forward to doing. We had planned go with some friends to Manning Park for few days; however, things did not turn out as planned.

Questions from IELTS by kele - Wednesday, December 4, 2013 - 10:07

gift and presentsI founds some interesting questions on the International English Language Testing System (IELTS) speaking portion:

1) When do people give gifts or presents in your country?

My answer (as Canadian):  Birthdays, Christmas, Baby showers, Anniversaries, Valentine's day

My answer (as Chinese):  Chinese New Year, Birthdays, Weddings, Anniversaries, for new born babies, for funerals,  Valentine's day, Moon Festival, when visiting friends from a long distance, to meet your mother and father in-law, to your boss, to your kids' teacher, to people who have helped you... (not sure if I have covered them all)

Changes by Chorge - Saturday, November 23, 2013 - 19:02

I just want to comment and say that in order to make changes in our lives it's important to be committed to the process of wanting things to be different than what we're used to. If I want to change I have to know the reasons that I want it instead of just wishing. If I want more abundance then I need to know what I'm going to do with more abundance. Simply wishing for more abundance and having no projects does not give our minds reason to seek it out.

today by talker8 - Monday, November 18, 2013 - 10:42

It's not always easy to make changes in our lives when we keep thinking a lot of the same thoughts that could limit us. To break out of that mindset requires a concerted effort in order to focus on what it is that we do want. I think beliefs play a big role in creating the changes that we desire. Beliefs tell us what is possible and what's not possible. In order to attract something different in our lives we must begin to see it in our minds so that we will notice the changes and signs that we're getting closer to our destination. A good exercise that works for me is to choose anything that you want to see, for example a purple dinosaur. Keep it in your mind and then when you go out on your errands or while watching TV notice when you see it or hear about it. You can even talk to people about it. It'll surprise you how often it comes up.

Question by admin - Sunday, November 17, 2013 - 19:20

What is one thing that you have not done but would like to do?

Love Felt Crafting by kele - Tuesday, November 12, 2013 - 15:00

Lately I fell in love with designing unique crafts using felt fabric. In the image below is one of my more recent projects:

felt crafing

Envious - Seeker by Seeker - Monday, November 11, 2013 - 20:43

Q. What are some possible alternative feelings to envious?

I want to feel like I don't need anything else.

Q. Talk about it! I feel envious when / because:

I feel envious when I see that others seem to have so much more than i do, like money or a nice house, car etc

Q. Talk about what it is that you envy. How do you think it will enhance your life and how will it make you feel to possess it? Look up the other emotions as well.

I think that having money would allow me to just take it easy and not have to worry about everything that we're supposed to do.

Q. Could it be that what you 'envy' is a way of showing you what you would like? How would you like to feel in an ideal setting? What would it take for you to just be happy?

Responsible - talker8 by talker8 - Sunday, November 10, 2013 - 14:54

Q. Talk about it! I feel responsible when / because:

I feel responsible when I disappoint someone. I feel selfish when I do what I want to to instead of going along with what they want.

Q. What can you do to make amends for how you feel? Write it out until it feels acceptable for you.

Well I could maybe make it clear what my preferences are or try to better understand what my friend is getting out of the activity..

Q. How does feeling this way impact/affect your life

When I want to do my thing instead of something else it kind of takes from me enjoying what I'm doing. Ideally I guess would be to make a list of what we both want do do together and then choose from that.

Controlled - talker8 by talker8 - Thursday, November 7, 2013 - 12:09

Q. Talk about it! I feel controlled when / because:

when I have no other choice but to put up with what's going on at work.

Q. Assuming that we participate to some degree in our present state, (responsibility) what does it give you to be dominated? For example, job security, not having to be responsible for your actions, allowing you to perpetuate a role etc. What does it give you in return? And if nothing why do you continue to subject yourself to it?

It's the job definitely but I don't know what to do in order to get out of that situation. I did agree to work there in order to get money to pay for life but didn't know that it would turn out to be like this

Q. How long have you been in this situation and how would you prefer it to be?

6 months and it's long enough for me.

Ready - anontoo by anontoo - Wednesday, November 6, 2013 - 14:25

Q. Talk about it! I feel ready when / because:

I feel ready to get organized and do things!

Q. Talk about how you got to the point of feeling 'ready' or confident in your decision and what the benefits are.

I was feeling down about where I'm at but I tried to focus on what was working in my life. I took small steps/decisions in order to keep moving in the direction I wanted to and now it feels like things are working for me.

Q. If you are 'ready' at this time in your life what preparations are you making for your longer term plans? What does that look like?

I want to build on what is working. Try to duplicate this feeling so that when I don't feel ready or encouraged I'll remind myself of how I feel now.



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Question of the month

Are you doing what you want?

My life is great!
25% (1 vote)
Life's good but...
50% (2 votes)
I need to make changes to get to where I want to be
25% (1 vote)
Total votes: 4